Ever notice how you feel especially amorous when you're in a nice hotel with your honey? Everything from the luxury bedding to the clean and orderly nature of the space can add to your desire to get close. You can use some of those ideas as a starting point when creating a sexy bedroom in your own home.
The seduction is on. You're moving toward the bed, locked in an embrace, and then…you hit the side table and that stack of books and papers tumbles to the ground. Hello, mood killer! Decluttering is a recommended strategy throughout the home - one that can lower stress and also keep your home looking neater and cleaner—but it has obvious benefits in the bedroom, like eliminating the possibility that your piles of stuff will interrupt your romantic moment.
Choose the right lighting
Bright lights overhead probably won't make you feel like undressing. They're more likely to make you feel like you're being interrogated (definitely not sexy!). Soft lighting can set the mood, and, even better, install dimmers so you can control the amount of light in the room at all times.
"A lot of men and women grapple with lighting," Ian Kerner, PhD, told Women's Health. "Either it's too light or it's not enough light for visual stimulation. And according to a recent Women's Health survey, 74 percent of men and 72 percent of women want those lights dimmed during intimate times - but not totally off. The easy solution: a simple dimmer switch."
Be careful with your color choices
"While cool colors are actually better for supporting a good night's sleep, they are are not hot, stimulating colors," said Apartment Therapy. "Aim somewhere in the middle. AVOID red-light district red and go for warm greys, lavender, warm greens, browns, tans, rose (if you really want it feminine). Neutral colors rock. Think "spa chic" and raw linen, which is so popular right now. China White is a lovely not too warm white, which goes really well with little warm pops of color in bedding, pillows, rugs, curtains or lampshades."
Make it comfortable
A lumpy bed won't serve anyone well, especially if you have sex on the mind. For the best results, get a mattress that isn't too soft and isn't too firm. A sore back may put an end to your romantic thoughts for the evening, or longer. And don't forget the headboard - for obvious reasons.
It's all about the fabric
"You want to consider all the senses when in the bedroom and softness of touch is a big one," said Apartment Therapy. Think super soft, high-quality bedding, a rug with a soft texture, cushy pillows. Scratchy surfaces are a turnoff in any setting.
Follow the principles of Feng Shui
"Feng shui, often called the art of placement, is an ancient oriental science incorporating astronomy, geography, environment, magnetic fields, physics and natural elements. The Chinese have been using it four thousand years to optimize living and working environments, with an amazing track record of benefits in health, happiness, prosperity and relationships for those who study and use its principles," said SELF. So how does that apply to your bedroom sexy time?
"The bedroom is especially important in this system, since it's the key area of the house where love, intimacy, relaxation and reproduction flourish," they said. Start to Incorporate Feng Shui into your bedroom by avoiding "clutter and big, oversized furniture in small bedrooms. For greater peace and prosperity, position the bed deep in the room, away from but facing the door. It's considered ideal if you can't see the toilet from the bedroom, either. And it turns out, according to the rules of Feng Shui, we girls have been right all along; the toilet lid should always be down -- to avoid the family's fortune from going down the drain!"